Who called from 8165089575

received a text from this number started with haha it had a link did not go to the link figure something was wrong and deleted the text

Text as well with a link. I called the number no answer. I texted back and received no reply.

Text with link - deleted

I got a text message from 816-508-9575 stating "LoL kathryn http://t.co/vV9MRV8u".

Forward such text messages to 7726. Almost all carriers use the number to report text message spam.  The website is probably a sex chat or porn site with loads of malware that will infect your phone or PC just by opening the link.